December 2010

A Year in the Life

December 31, 2010 Addiction

This isn’t a post about New Years resolutions. I don’t need a holiday to make changes in my life. IT IS about lessons I’ve learned in an effort to make resolutions. Mood music: [youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pNUU8jHXLMg&fs=1&hl=en_US&rel=0] There’s been plenty of unpleasant stuff this year. I’ve watched two marriages fall apart. We had a couple months where money [...]

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Binge, Pray, Whine

December 29, 2010 Addiction

I’ve never read the book “Eat, Pray, Love” and I haven’t seen the movie. I have nothing against it, it’s just that I have trouble with the “eat” part. Reading about that isn’t helpful to a recovering binge-eating addict. Mood music: [youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1cTJV3HK-Xs&fs=1&hl=en_US&rel=0] My therapist actually brought up the book during one of our sessions. He [...]

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From Confusion to Wisdom

December 26, 2010 Communication skills for the crazy

I’ve crashed many times while blasting down the road of life. The car is in one piece now and I’ve learned to throttle back some. And when I hear the following words of wisdom, I KNOW it’s the truth: Mood music: [youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=agn4y-M1rjA&fs=1&hl=en_US&rel=0] ACCEPTANCE ?”Holding onto resentment is like drinking poison and expecting it to kill [...]

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Done Eating by 3 p.m., Christmas Day

December 26, 2010 Addiction

It was a good Christmas for me, for more than all the usual reasons. Mood music: [youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2eFiNud6fbU&fs=1&hl=en_US&rel=0] There was the usual joy: Being around family, getting the chance to lie around much more than usual, watching the kids go Christmas crazy. Mass was good, with a homily that pointed out that Jesus was as human [...]

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12-25-10 Blessed

December 25, 2010 Faith

Yeah. Christmas really doesn’t suck like it used to. And I’m the luckiest guy on Earth. Life isn’t perfect. It never will be. Not supposed to be. But I’m finally starting to move past the idea that Christmas is supposed to always be perfect, sparkling and free of pain and strife. I’m looking at a lot [...]

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Facebook Follow Friday: Christmas Eve

December 24, 2010 Gratitude

Welcome to the latest edition of Facebook Follow Friday. Each Friday there’s a tradition on Twitter called Follow Friday, and I decided to do a Facebook version here. What’s it have to do with OCD and addiction, you ask? Mood music: [youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=grwP8QvI1jY&fs=1&hl=en_US&rel=0] Simple: A person in recovery needs the people around him/her to stay sober and abstinent. [...]

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The Confession

December 23, 2010 Faith

Being the screw-up that I am, I need to empty the trash from my soul every few months. Last night I did just that. Here’s why Confession is so important to me. Mood music: [youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mSZv9KKf0g0&fs=1&hl=en_US&rel=0] Simply put, Confession is where I go to unload all the things I keep doing wrong. It’s just me and [...]

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More on Kids and Divorce

December 22, 2010 Children's issues

Yesterday’s post on children and divorce hit a tender nerve for a lot of you, so I feel a few clarifications are in order. Mood music: Here’s what yesterday’s post WAS NOT: –A rebuke of single parents. I know a lot of single parents who bust their ass and give their children a lot more [...]

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Screwing Your Kids in the Divorce

December 21, 2010 Children's issues

When people you know go through a divorce, much is made over who gets what and who loses what. The ex-wife gets the house. The ex-husband gets full custody of the kids. But here’s a constant that’s most upsetting: The kids almost always get the shaft. Mood music: Parents don’t usually mean for this to [...]

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No Flour or Sugar for Life? How!?

December 21, 2010 Addiction

Some new readers came across my posts about eliminating flour and sugar as part of my recovery from a binge-eating addiction. The idea of eliminating these things for life is scary for some people. And who can blame them? It certainly scared the hell out of me once upon a time. Mood music: [youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4g86KUHGlOg&fs=1&hl=en_US] Only after [...]

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