April 2011

Sean and Duncan Get A Lesson From The One-Armed Drummer

by Bill Brenner April 30, 2011 Children's issues

It started with Sean and Duncan doing what they usually do in the car — taunting each other. Sean told Duncan he has ADHD. Duncan didn’t like that. Mood music: The fact of the matter is that we don’t know what Duncan has yet. He’s too young for an accurate diagnosis. Like everyone else, he has his challenges to overcome, and we’re working with him on it. Clearly, one of my weekend tasks is to…  [Read More]

OCD and ADHD Linked? Maybe

by Bill Brenner April 29, 2011 Children's issues

I recently wrote about our challenges with Duncan and how I often curse myself for a lack of patience with him, given my own history with OCD. This morning I came across a column from  Dr. Keith Ablow that might explain a lot. Mood music (Still some coding weirdness with the video embedding, but the music works): <object width=”640″ height=”510″><param name=”movie” value=”http://www.youtube.com/v/MDiF3POJdyU?fs=1&hl=en_US&rel=0″></param><param name=”allowFullScreen” value=”true”></param><param name=”allowscriptaccess” value=”always”></param>[youtube http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MDiF3POJdyU&fs=1&hl=en_US&rel=0]</object> Let’s start with a few paragraphs from Ablow’s column:…  [Read More]

Sarah Jones Memorial Service

by Bill Brenner April 28, 2011 Uncategorized

Since writing about my old friends, the Jone family, and the death of their daughter Sarah, some readers have asked what I knew about a memorial service. This morning, Deb Jones posted some details on Facebook: We finally have a day and a location for Sarah’s memorial service. It will be Thursday, May 5th, @ Bisbee – Porcella Funeral Home, 549 Lincoln Avenue, Saugus, MA, 01906. It is most likely going to be early evening,…  [Read More]

Over-scheduled Kids: It’s Not The Activity, It’s The Parents

by Bill Brenner April 28, 2011 Children's issues

I was talking to a co-worker yesterday about all the activities our kids are involved in these days. Boy Scouts. Sports. Martial Arts. Are we over-scheduling our kids these days? We couldn’t help but wonder. Mood music (Pardon the coding gibberish around the video. There’s a glitch I haven’t figured out yet, but the music plays just fine): <object width=”640″ height=”510″><param name=”movie” value=”http://www.youtube.com/v/jyb8pMsyPFw?fs=1&hl=en_US&rel=0″></param><param name=”allowFullScreen” value=”true”></param><param name=”allowscriptaccess” value=”always”></param>[youtube http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jyb8pMsyPFw&fs=1&hl=en_US&rel=0]</object> As a kid, I resisted activities like…  [Read More]

Who We Were/Who We Are

by Bill Brenner April 26, 2011 Courage

Last night I fell asleep while leafing through my high school yearbook. I’m connected to a lot of old classmates on Facebook, and it’s funny how different many of us are now. It’s no surprise, of course. We have to change. In appearance and in mindset. That’s what we do. Yet we still fixate on the old days sometimes. Mood music: [youtube http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2QP6H4ov7FE&fs=1&hl=en_US&rel=0] I came across pictures of folks I never talked to in high school….  [Read More]

Dueling Priests: A Religious Adventure

by Bill Brenner April 25, 2011 Faith

You would think everyone could get along at church. But, it turns out, people get as political and competitive as they would in the corporate setting. Here’s why these human imperfections actually strengthen my faith. Mood music: [youtube http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lspjLG9nHXk&fs=1&hl=en_US&rel=0] First, a little history: In September, our beloved pastor, Father Dennis Nason, passed away, leaving a gaping hole in the church community. The parochial vicar, Father Michael Harvey, performed practically every Mass from that point until…  [Read More]

‘Binge Eating? Come On, Man’

by Bill Brenner April 23, 2011 Addiction

Every now and then, someone expresses shock at my classifying a compulsive binge eating disorder as addictive behavior. So it was when an acquaintance in the infosec world contacted me this morning. Mood music: [spotify:track:0ydzdWYWIFlGBurhjEXwit] Rather than run the entire message verbatim, I’m going to address certain chunks. His text is in italics, followed my my responses. First, I want to point out that I like this guy. He does great work in our industry….  [Read More]

Jesus Has My Back

by Bill Brenner April 23, 2011 Faith

This is a very special Easter for me. Five years ago tonight, I was Baptized and got a new chance at life. Since then, I’ve tried to live a Holy life. I’ve come up short much of the time, but I just keep trying. It’s a massive, sometimes overwhelming challenge to get it right these days. Everywhere you look there’s something to temp you. For an addictive personality like mine, being weak in that environment…  [Read More]

Prayers for Old Friends

by Bill Brenner April 22, 2011 Coping tools

This morning my thoughts and prayers are with the Jones family, who mourn the loss of a daughter and sister. Mood music: [youtube http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DKbPUzhWeeI&fs=1&hl=en_US&rel=0] Twenty years ago, I would hang out with this family for days on end. Jeff Jones (he goes by Geoff Wolfe today) was my fellow Doors freak, and I remember many pleasant afternoon’s and evenings in their back yard. I was there for July 4 1991, which I remember because someone…  [Read More]

To Sean on His 10th Birthday

by Bill Brenner April 21, 2011 Children's issues

Sean turns 10 today, and this is my birthday message to him. Let’s start with the appropriate mood music, a song you are very fond of: [youtube http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SpOxjOj0zhk&fs=1&hl=en_US&rel=0] You entered the world on Earth Day, 10 years ago. Wow. A full decade. As I wrote to you last year, you were graced with a beautiful Mom and a Dad with just a few kinks in him. I would always try to hide my OCD, depression and addictive behavior from you, but…  [Read More]