Big Dumb Sex, Dumber Men

by Bill Brenner on March 6, 2014

I’ve seen a lot of dumb things on the Return of Kings website. There was the “Five Reasons to Date a Girl with an Eating Disorder” and another rant about how women who don’t reproduce hurt society. Now there’s an article about how society owes men sex.

Mood music:

Now, it wouldn’t be fair to criticize without looking at the background of the site. Return of Kings is described as “a blog for heterosexual, masculine men. It’s meant for a small but vocal collection of men in America today who believe men should be masculine and women should be feminine.” I believe in free speech. Accordingly, I think the authors have the right to say what they want, no matter how ridiculous I find it. It’s possible, too, that the authors’ ultimate goal is satire.

There’s also a surge in troll blogging, where headlines like those above are tossed out to get a reaction. But since there are those who will take the headlines seriously, not seeing it for what it is, someone has to occasionally respond and debunk.

In the latest article, the author claims that sex is a birthright of the male species, an important status symbol. Men who aren’t rewarded with a good woman are looked down upon, and the more of them there are, the more society decays.

From the post:

A tribe that fails to set up its young men with women keeps false faith on its side of the social contract. If they won’t get you a woman they’re telling you you’re worthless—that you don’t deserve to pass down your line. They don’t want you. A group that values you makes sure you have sexual relationships that bind you to your people and give you a stake that you’ll be willing to defend when the going gets tough. Because they value you, they want your genes in the next generation

A group that does nothing to help, or outright cockblocks you, is just a parasite that feeds on itself. It becomes a society of death that  prevents reproduction, setting the sexes against each other, tearing them apart. It becomes like a planet with an acid atmosphere and crushing gravity; a place hostile to human life.

There’s the suggestion that women are trophies; that sex is a man’s reward for being manly. To believe the post is to believe that intimacy is something you win like the spoils of war. There’s nothing in here about mutual respect and love.

Some people see sex as an extracurricular activity, a casual thing. I see nothing wrong with that. If that’s what makes both partners happy, who am I to judge?

Others see it as the author of that post: something a man needs to be respected. Women can experience the same pressure.

I was a late bloomer who wasted a lot of time worrying about the pursuit of sex. I had lousy luck and therefore felt subhuman. It’s a very common experience. Once I got there, I felt dumb for making such a big deal about it in the first place.

No one owed me anything. For me, it was simply a matter of finding true love, which I ultimately did.

The folks at Return of Kings can have their big, dumb sex and write all they want about what it takes to be a man. It doesn’t make them right, and it doesn’t mean we have to believe them.


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Leah Sannar March 6, 2014 at 7:10 pm

Interesting… while I disagree with just about everything from their excerpt – I guess you have to give them credit for the entertainment factor. I did chuckle a few times while I read it. I enjoyed your take on it, thanks for sharing.

anon June 16, 2014 at 5:06 am

That’s not a troll blog. That’s actually an extremist movement you’ve stumbled upon. Look up ‘men’s rights’ movement and you’ll find opinions ranging from blaming feminism for all problems to strange arguments like you just saw there decrying the lack of sex despite the fact that females are 50% of the population. There is even more crazy but it all stems from deriving self worth from women and the resulting obsession about women.

Strange that the men’s rights movement doesn’t focus on fatherhood etc issues. It actually puts very little focus on that.

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