The wedding I wrote about a few days ago has come to pass, and it was a great night. Everyone got along, which isn’t always easy in this family, and it was great to see the newlyweds look so happy. It was also a night where a few people defied my expectations.
Mood music:
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Two people I was certain wouldn’t talk to me came up and greeted me warmly. Another couple we haven’t seen in six years greeted us warmly, too. One person, probably the oldest family member in the room, snubbed me, which was a surprise based on our last encounter.
Just goes to show that people are rarely predictable.
It sucks that some of the relationships in the room are damaged. Nobody ever wants it to be that way, but sometimes perfectly good individuals find it impossible to talk to each other without fireworks going off. What looks like something normal or positive to one person comes off as selfish and malicious to the other person.
To some of the bystanders in the room, it just doesn’t make sense. Like Rodney King during the L.A. riots 20 years ago, they ask aloud, “Can’t we all just get along?”
If only life were that sensible.
In the end, though, it’s good to see that people can defy expectations. Whether the outcome is pleasant or not, it goes to show that the future is never set in stone and family discord doesn’t have to last.
It’s been said that with love all things are possible. It’s true.
It’s also true that all things are possible when people who don’t get along make it through an event without coming to verbal or physical blows.
I thought to myself as I finished your blog….I like that…so had to let you know …xo me
I’m glad it wasn’t awful. I live with serious dysfunction on both sides of the family. It sucks.